I have now pondered my O.P for two days, and my answer to my question " How such an unloving organisation can have so many kind hearted is:-
A) I must accept we all have our bind spots when rationality can take a back seat to emotions, and this is particularly true if :-
1) if a person is indoctrinated at a young age.
2) Also social pressure to remain faithful can cloud a persons judgement.
3) There is also the high cost of rejecting our faith.
Sadly my kind heartedness is not so benevolent to those that remain in the " truth" for ego and for positions of respect when they know the damage the organistion has and is doing to its members.
The Rebel.